TRUE PERSONALITY

WE all THINK WE KNOW WHO WE ARE

HOWEVER I CONTINUE TO BE REMINDED EACH DAY HOW I HAVE PARTS OF ME THAT I HAVE NOT YET SEEN BEFORE UP UNTIL THAT TELLING MOMENT

OUR EXPERIENCE EXPOSES US TO WHO WE TRULY ARE AND ALSO ALLOWs ROOM FOR ADJUSTMENT

 

I HAVE FOUND MYSELF IN POSITIONS THAT I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE IN, HAVING CONVERSATIONS THAT I NEVER THOUGHT TO EVER HAVE, AND BEHAVING IN UNEXPECTED WAYS.

IN SOME WAYS I GIVE MYSELF CREDIT, IN OTHERS NOT SO MUCH - BUT WHAT IS IMPORTANT IS THAT WE BUILD AND LEARN FROM THESE EXPERIENCES TO BEING STRONGER AND MORE DEFINED.

SOME PEOPLE WILL WANT TO SEE YOU WEAK TO MAINTAIN THEIR OWN LEVEL OF CONTROL OVER YOU BECAUSE OF YOUR BEING SO VULNERABLE.

INSTEAD, WE SHOULD COLLABORATE EACH AS STRONG (OR WEAK) INDIVIDUALS TO INNOVATING AND PRODUCING IN A WAY THAT IS BETTER THAN ONLY HAVING ONE TYPE OF INPUT OR THOUGHT PROCESS.

 

GREAT MINDS THINK ALIKE?

ACTUALLY NO..

 GREAT MINDS THINK UNALIKE! great minds think for themselves.

great minds THINK BETTER WITH OTHER UNLIKE MINDS..

REMEMBER, WE ARE BETTER TOGETHER!

 

AND THIS IS NOT A WAY TO GET YOU TO THINK LIKE ME, OR BELIEVE IN WHAT I CONTINUE TO ‘PREACH. (MY OPINIONS WILL ALWAYS BE MY OPINIONS). 

THIS IS THE OPPORTUNITY FOR YOU TO STAND UP FOR YOURSELF AND TRUST THAT WHAT IS SET IN YOUR HEART, WHAT YOU MAY NOT FORSEE IN YOUR OWN FUTURE, AND WHAT VARIOUS PEOPLE SAY NEGATIVELY ABOUT YOUR OWN ACHIEVEMENT..

 IS MORE THAN POSSIBLE!

 

WE MUST BELIEVE IN OURSELVES.

IF WE DO NOT BELIEVE IN OURSELVES, NO ONE WILL.

 

CONFIDENCE IS COMPLEX.

WE MUST OWN IT. EMBRACE IT. EXPRESS IT.

WE CANNOT DENY WHAT IS TRUE OF OURSELVES.

WHAT WE WANT FROM LIFE.

WHERE WE WANT TO GO.

HOW WE WANT TO DO SOMETHING.

A HUGE PART OF HAVING CONFIDENCE, IS TRUSTING IN OURSELVES.

WE EXPECT PEOPLE TO TRUST US ALL THE TIME AND MAY EVEN BECOME ON EDGE WHEN IT SEEMS WHEN SOMEONE DOES NOT TRUST US, OR WORSE YET, DOES NOT WANT TO TRUST US.

(YEP, I AM GUILTY OF THIS!)

 

SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO BRING THE BEST OUT OF YOU

WE NEED A CHALLENGE EVERY ONCE IN A WHILE TO SEE THAT WHAT WE ARE DOING IN THIS MOMENT IS NOT THE BEST THAT WE ARE CAPABLE OF

MORE IMPORTANTLY: WE NEED PEOPLE WHO WILL ALLOW US TO BE OUR BEST SELVES 

 

WE ARE WHO WE ARE.

 

PEOPLE ARE OFTEN WILLING TO SPEAK WITH YOU ON LEVELS WHERE YOU MAY TALK OUT YOUR ASPIRATIONS TO GET YOU TO YOUR NEXT STEPS. THEY WILL WQRK WITH YOU TO BUILD YOUR CONFIDENCE TO ASSURE YOU THAT YOUR DREAMS MAY BECOME A REALITY. MAY EVEN BE THE ONE WHO TAKES THOSE STEPS ALONGSIDE YOU.

WE SHOULD LOOK TO THOSE WHO MAY BE EXPERIENCING OR HAVE EXPERIENCED SIMILAR SITUATIONS LIKE OUR OWN TO GETTING THROUGH. THESE TYPES OF PEOPLE WILL EMPOWER YOU TO DO THINGS FOR YOURSELF AND REMIND YOU TO ATTEND TO YOUR OWN NEEDS.

 

TALK TO PEOPLE. LIKE REALLY TALK TO THEM! THIS DOES NOT MEAN GO TELLING EVERYONE ALL THE HOT GOSSIP AT WORK OR DRAMA IN YOUR PERSONAL LIFE.

CONNECT WITH PEOPLE IN AN ORGANIC WAY. YOU WILL KNOW WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT TO OPEN UP TO A PARTICULAR INDIVIDUAL.

I FIND THIS IMPORTANT AS NO ONE WILL GO THROUGH YOUR EXACT SITUATION, THOUGH MAY HAVE AN OUTCOME THAT MIGHT WORK FOR YOU OR YOU MAY BE INSPIRED BY THEIR RESPONSE FOR A NEW SOLUTION OF YOUR OWN.

FROM THESE CONVERSATIONS, YOU CAN DETERMINE WHAT WILL BE BEST FOR YOU TO MOVING FORWARD.

NATURALLY, I AM NOT THE TYPE WHO TALKS ABOUT ALL OF MY PROBLEMS. MOST TIMES I HAVE FOUND MYSELF INTERNALIZING THEM, THINKING IT WILL FIX ITSELF - THOUGH I HAVE LEARNED TO FIND THE PROPER OUTLETS.

THIS ALL STARTS WITH PEOPLE WE LOVE. IF YOU CAN AFFORD IT, TAKE THE TIME TO MEET THEM IN PERSON TO GET THE FULL EXPERIENCE AND ATTENTION WE ARE LOOKING FOR.

 

TRUST YOURSELF.

WHY DO WE NEED PEOPLE TO BELIEVE US?

VALIDATION. SECURITY. CONSISTENCY. RAPPORT. SANITY. ENDS.

 

IT GRINDS MY GEARS WHEN I AM COMMUNICATING WITH SOMEONE AND THEY CONTINUE TO BLAME ME FOR SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED OR DENY THE OCCURRENCE OF MY MAKING SOMETHING HAPPEN.

I AM NOT AT ALL (ANYMORE) THE TYPE OF PERSON WHO CARES FOR PEOPLE TO BELIEVE ME, one way or another.

HOWEVER, IF AND WHEN AN INDIVIDUAL COMES OFF AS OBNOXIOUSLY INVALIDATING ME, THAT IS WHEN I AM READY TO CUT THE CONVERSATION.

INSIDE, I TRULY THROW UP MY HANDS AND SAY "ENOUGH!"

IT IS NOT GIVING UP.. IT IS SAVING AND PROTECTING MYSELF!

 WHILE THIS IS HOW I AM FEELING INSIDE, I DO MY BEST NOT TO EXPRESS THIS IN ANY BODY LANGUAGE OR VERBAL RESPONSES.
 

BE CONFIDENT >> IN SILENCE

MY SATISFACTION COMES FROM CONTINUED SILENCE IN LISTENING TO WHAT AN INDIVIDUAL FURTHER WANTS TO COMMUNICATE.

YOU CAN TELL A LOT ABOUT A PERSON WHEN YOU LEAVE THEM IN SILENCE. WHAT THOUGHTS COME TO THEIR MIND, HOW THEY CHOOSE TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOU. LISTEN. HEAR THEM OUT.

AT THIS POINT, YOU ARE FORCING SOMEONE TO COMMUNICATE WITH THEMSELVES AND YOU GET A SNEAK PEAK OF THEIR MENTAL ACTION.

HOW CLEVER, NO?!

 

SOMETIMES WE FEEL SO QUICK TO REACT. WHEN THAT'S NOT HOW WE REALLY WANT TO BEST RESPOND.

MANIPULATIVE PEOPLE GET OFF ON REACTIONS. REMEMBER, YOU ARE BETTER THAN THAT!

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR BODY AND OF YOUR MIND. NOT THE OTHER WAY AROUND. TRUST IN YOURSELF ENOUGH TO ALLOW FOR TIME YOUR PROBLEMS TO FIND SOLUTIONS. THE ANSWERS WILL COME TO YOU ONCE YOU HAVE GIVEN YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO STEP AWAY AND THINK ABOUT OTHER RESPONSIBILITIES. LET THE ANSWERS COME TO YOU WITHOUT HAVING TO DWELL ON YOUR CURRENT ISSUES.

AS A CHANGE OF PACE, SLOW DOWN TO THINK ABOUT HOW TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE STRENGTHS OF THE INDIVIDUAL IN WHICH YOU ARE INTERACTING WITH, AS WELL AS THEIR WEAKNESSES. THINK ABOUT YOUR WEAKNESSES AS AN INDIVIDUAL, AND THEN THINK OF YOUR OWN STRENGTHS.

 

THIS IS THE TIME TO CONSIDER OPPORTUNITY. AND, NOT ALWAYS, IS THIS VERY MOMENT YOUR OPPORTUNITY.

THIS IS A CHALLENGE YOU MUST OVERCOME:

KNOWING YOUR MOMENT OF OPPORTUNITY.

 FIND OUT WHAT THIS MEANS. FOR YOU.

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